Monday, May 10, 2010

TRUE LOVE.

What is love? I can only tell you what the bible says love is. That is God himself, in 1John 4:8,16 it says God is love. It only goes to say that love is the greatest gift that God gives because it is God himself that is given. Love is such a strong word....it has such a tremendous impact on us all. We all ache for it. Love is a living and breathing organism on this fragile Earth of ours......it is the one treasure we value more than fame, fortune, & glory.
Is true love really blind? In a perfect world love should always be blind. You should love someone not for what you can see on the outside, but for how he or she makes you feel on the inside. When you truly, deeply love someone you will be able to see them through faults and all. You should be able to forgive and forget. You will be able to compromise and settle your differences because of the truth that is your love. Love is the reason that people that have differences are able to find each other and live happily ever after. I have found that it is best to reach for a lover that sees you on the inside as well. Looks fade and attitudes shift, but when you truly love someone you will be able to fall again and again blindly and with haste. There are no rules in love. You can love someone at first sight, you can love someone in a month, or maybe you can't fall for a year...but eventually when you fall whatever your time table is it will be the best fall if it is done blindly and with faith. Faith is the cornerstone of any relationship. You have to have faith in yourself, faith in your partner, and faith in LOVE! Blindly loving someone is the only way to truly love someone. It allows for the possibility of a happily ever after!
Love is blind represent the first phase in "the Love process" when people fall in love and they see the one they love like they want to see them. Love is blind is often associated with people who don't deserve your love and can often be compared with love at first sight. The first phase of your love looks wonderful and creates passion, physical attractions but the next phase is critique. You discover "the real person" behind these feeling and can be totally different. It is possible you will find out a totally different person with a behavior which can't be tolerated in a relationship. As long you overlooks this behavior, the statement "love is blind" is true. Once you see the reality if he/she deserves your love; you can speak of true love and in my opinion "true love" is not blind. True love is, in fact, anything but blind. Infatuation may be somewhat in need of an optician, but true love has perfect vision. Infatuation is blind. Attraction can have impaired vision. True love is not blind nor visually impaired. True love can see into the depths of our heart and soul with a clarity and vision beyond compare. Infatuation and attraction deny any imperfections. True love embraces them. Love's keen vision does not miss a detail. Really loving another person entails seeing their flaws and making the decision to love them anyway. A true love is not blind. In fact, it brings us closer to reality. It widens and broaden our mind and helps improve our vision to harmonize ourselves with the realities of the world. The person we love is acceptable to us with all his/her shortcomings, flaws or defects. It does not mean that his/her love darkens our reason and numbs our mind towards our beloved. True love is never conditional. It never chains or shackles our mind and body, rather it liberates the lovers of all chains of compulsion and obligations. Now days, we, due to our immaturity, tend to take every crush as love. Even infatuations are taken or considered as true love. Hardly or little do we realize that a genuine and true love is far greater than the things they are proud of.
True love takes time, nurturing, and commitment to grow. It is your heart's home and the place where your soul feels safe. Through heritage, true intimacy, and friendship it blooms in our lives to form a haven. True love will withstand the broken promise. We forgive the fault or weakness that leads our partner off the path we are trying to pave together. This is the big difference: true love forgives it does not excuse. Infatuation makes excuses. It blames someone or something other than our partner for his or her acts. Jealousy is insecurity projected onto our partner, a poison that forces our partner to exceed a standard of behavior we cannot meet. When we truly love another, we acknowledge our insecurities and accept that no one is perfect. We can allow our partner to grow without fear of them growing away from us. As adults, when we experience true love, we build a home. Not a building of stone or wood, or even a tent pitched on the roadside but an emotional refuge. We do not seek to bar the door against our partner's leaving. Rather, we assure our partner that when they must go away for a time it will always be safe to return. Our refuge requires friendship to take root. We do not expect more of our friends than we are willing to give. We do not require perfect agreement. We encourage debate and foster growth while encouraging their faith in their abilities. We help them expand their horizons. True love does all that and takes the extra step. It nurtures our growth so we can blossom. Conflict becomes a stepping-stone in our path to expand our horizons and true love cheers us along. If time or circumstance should take our love away, we are able to cherish the time we had rather than mourn the time we lost.
It's time we realize that old proverbs may not always be true, given the world of difference between past and present. In this materialistic age, many concepts have been altogether changed and being replaced by new ones. No one can deny the great significance of love, for it is our inherent feels and noble quality every one loves to possess. What we need is to understand love and get inspiration from it to make our life successfull.

Do Soulmates Exist?? - YES THEY DO! by *Labbonno ANGEL OF LOVE


My belief in Soul mates exist differs from the beliefs of a lot of people I know, in that my belief is not based merely upon the possibility of lovers being soul mates,
but that there are others in your life that are also your soul mates... a spouse, lover, significant other, boyfriend/girlfriend ...all of these people are commonly referred
to by people as being their soul mate. It makes it easy to explain why you chose to get involved in an all-encompassing relationship with one another, and even in the unhealthiest
of romantic relationships, the term has been used, usually to explain the reasons why a person stays when they are being abused in some way. But what about those people that you
consider in your inner circle? Those who are so close to you it seems the two of you are two halves of the same person? I have a close friend to whom I have so much in common with, I have gone through so much with, that we know we are soul mates, and my love also believe that the way we connect we should consider ourselves each others soul mates. because to be separated from him, would be emotionally devastating to me.
By my own personal definition, a soul mate is someone outside your immediate family, who is joined to you by fate, meant to be a part of your life, to whom you feel an honest kinship
and whom you share multiple facets of your life with. To know your soul mate is there holding you up, standing at your back and watching over you protectively can make you feel high
and bullet proof. Not everyone you meet or that is a special person to you is a soul mate, obviously. There is a pull that happens between two people when they are soul mates. It
is an immediate response to seeing them, hearing them, communicating with them. You know it when you feel it. That intangible feeling of being drawn to someone else. That is the
feeling. You don't necessarily hear the orchestra playing or see angels singing the praises of the other person, because life is not a movie. But you do know the feeling, and I
would be willing to bet that even those that claim that they don't believe in soul mates have felt that at one time or another in their lives about someone else. It doesn't even
matter if you feel the pull and then it diminishes later on, and you break up with the person or if the two of you go your separate ways out of the friendship. You and your soul mates
can and sometimes do pass in and out of each other's lives, at times temporarily, at others , for good. But they have changed you by being a part of your life, just as you have
changed them. You have enriched one another, learned and taught one another, lived and laughed and loved together, and because of that, they have touched your soul, and that is
what makes them your soul mate.
Soulmate is not just a romantic notion of mine, that everyone has a "soul mate" or someone that they can link with on every level. It is based on logic, emotion and practical
experience. It is logical to assume that there is someone, somewhere, with whom you fundamentally agree with on all of the main issues in life. We all pass through life forming
opinions and plans based on our emotions, feelings, experiences and requirements. On the basis that millions of people, just in our own country for a start, live their lives
against fundamentally the same background, then there are only a finite number of decisions, plans and opinions that can be formed. Therefore, it MUST be the case that there is
someone that agrees with you on these matters. A soul mate is, of course, much more than someone who you agree with on many matters. It is someone who you connect with on a
subconscious level, too. This connection, though, is based on the fact that you are both heading the same way in life, and that you both want to get there in the same way. A
soul mate is your best friend, your confidante, the person with whom you are relaxed enough to be yourself around and with whom you can express yourself freely, emotionally and
physically. All of this happens naturally and the emotion when you realize it is huge. This promotion from a great partner to realizing you are soul mates is all about communication.
Whilst it may be obvious that you agree on many, many points and have developed a "connection", it is the points on which you don't agree exactly that make the difference.
Communicating about these matters, and realizing that the differences don't matter at all, is one of the final signs that you have found your soul mate. You have found links at all
sorts of levels and nothing seems to affect your relationship and feelings for each other. An unspeakable connection, the intertwining of the body and the mind, weaving love, lust,
trust and most of all respect is what mating the souls to become one is all about.
Soul mates do exist. It is an unexplainable bond, more that just finishing each others sentences, but a sincere connection to another human being. The relationship with your
soul mate is free from jealousy, anger and frustration because when you communicate it's only the two of you in the room always! It's that feeling that makes everything else
seem insignificant. A soul mate is more than an idea, but an institution that still exists as long as we believe that there is someone for everyone. It exists because
"Opposites attract" and "great minds think alike" so while we soul search within, we yearn for that other person we can connect with. A soul mate is someone you won't have to
look for. Not to say that they will fall into your lap either. Being open to finding the right person for you is based on your attitude.It's not that fairy tale, but it takes time
and patience to really let someone in to your life and they should welcome you as well. All the wrongs of the past make you appreciate the present, and the future. With that said, we
should not taint our future love life with relationships gone wrong. Not to say that you and your soul mate will have a worry free, but that special bond always brings you back to what
is true. Your feelings never lie. If your mind and your heart are saying the same thing, then your soul speaks the divine truth. Let your emotions run free to welcome your mate into
your soul, but it has to feel right. I think a sign of true bonding is when you feel as though you have known each other for ever, the love you have for each other is unquestioning
and unconditional, and you both realize that without the words having to be spoken.
Finding your soul mate can take a while, but the basic paths that we are all on make it logical to assume that your soul mate is out there somewhere, but the key issue is not to set
your expectations that blindly or, mainly, be that "black and white". Easy communication and understanding on all issues is the key to forming this bond, but it is important to realize
to realize that you are deeply, deeply linked. It's a happy way to be!

“A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life."